I must hear that five times a week. It’s as if we think that the existence of the plan, a set of action steps which we intend to take, will somehow make all of the anxiety go away.
“No you don’t,” I often say, infuriating my clients.
“But I don’t know what to do about…”–fill in the blank:
“…my being lost, stuck, frightened.”
Just tell me what to do, they often implore.
And just as maddeningly I’ll say, “Tell me what you want to happen.”
Because, in the end, it’s not really that we don’t need a plan to make the change we desperately know we want. The problem is we think the plan is the answer when it’s simply a means to arriving at the answer.
The hard part isn’t coming up with the plan. The hard part is bearing the stage of “No action” necessary so that the right amount of data can unfold. And then, when you know where you want to go, where you need to be, exactly how you’d like the change to manifest, the steps to getting there lay themselves out the way the Yellow Brick road revealed itself to Dorothy.