Coaching

What do I do?

Coaching is a pretty wide-open field with a lot of different modalities and styles and many different focus areas. Some coaches consider themselves “executive” coaches while others bill themselves as life coaches. Some use tools often developed for personality work (e.g., assessment tests) while others are focused on specific “workshop”-like assignments.

Who do I work with?
My clients vary. I work with a number of CEOs of start-up businesses as well as executive directors of not-for-profits. A few of my clients are recently retired and are sorting through the next phase of their life and others are younger, trying to sort through the next steps in their career.

How coaching works?
I coach in person and by phone. I typically work with each client once a week for an hour. I usually begin work with a new client with a free “sample” session. This gives the client a chance to get a sense of what coaching is like (some clients skip it since they’ve had clients and get right to work). That’s followed by a “discovery session” which is generally an hour and half to two hours. That gives us both a chance to know each other more deeply and set a clear agenda.  (One of the key differences between coaching and therapy, for example, is therapy oftentimes is less focused on an agenda. In coaching, holding the agenda–or agendas–is a key function.)

Sometimes, though, the presenting agenda (“I need to leave my job”) turns out to be part of a larger agenda (what is referred to as the transformational agenda): “I need to leave my career.”

My practice blends my life experiences with a specific modality called Transformational Coaching. Transformational Coaching holds that the client is whole but often at a critical juncture in their life–a sort of sweetly juicy existential moment that is usually career/work related but sometimes not. And at this moment, they’ve an opportunity to consciously design their own life.

Why hire a coach?

In his book, Soulcraft, Bill Plotkin writes:

The Survival Dance and The Sacred Dance

Harley Swift Deer, a Native American teacher, says that each of us has a survival dance and a sacred dance, but the survival dance must come first. Our survival dance, a foundational component of self-reliance, is what we do for a living—our way of supporting ourselves physically and economically…Finding and creating one is our first task upon leaving our parents’ or guardians’ home.

Once you have your survival dance established, you can wander, inwardly and outwardly, searching for clues to your sacred dance, the work you were born to do. This work may have no relation to your job. Your sacred dance sparks your greatest fulfillment and extends your truest service to others. You know you’ve found it when there’s little else you’d rather be doing. Getting paid for it is superfluous. You would gladly pay others, if necessary, for the opportunity.

…Swift Deer says that once you discover your sacred dance and learn effective ways of embodying it, the world will support you in doing just that.

What your soul wants is what the world also wants (and needs). Your human community will say yes to your soul work and will, in effect, pay you to do it. Gradually, your sacred dance becomes what you do and your former survival dance is no longer needed. Now you have only one dance as the world supports you to do what is most fulfilling for you. How do you get there? The first step is creating a foundation of self-reliance: a survival dance of integrity that allows you to be in the world in a good way—a way that is psychologically sustaining, economically adequate, socially responsible, and environmentally sound. Cultivating right livelihood, as the Buddhist call it, is essential training and foundation for your soul work; it’s not a step that can be skipped.

So, in a sense, often times the point of coaching is find out what our deepest longing is and work towards fulfilling it.

How much does it cost?
My rates vary, depending on the work involved. That said I’ve never let price be an impediment to working with a client.

How to reach me?

To inquire about coaching, email me at inquireATcolonnaDOTorg or call (646) 450-2641

My office address is:

928 Broadway, Suite 1002
New York, NY 10010